Do What You Said You Were Going To Do

Do you open up your email inbox, read the emails and then think to yourself, “I’ll just reply later?”  And then 50% of the time we never reply with our follow-up email?

Why does this happen so much?  Well if you want to know the real reason, it is mainly because a lot of us simply lie to ourselves.  Think lying to others is bad?  How about lying to yourself, that is just as bad, if not worse.

For example, we are lying to ourselves every time we say we are going to do something and we don’t do it.   The reason we accidently lie to ourselves in most cases like this is because we generally try to do way more than we actually can do.  For instance, you get 10 emails, you tell yourself, “Oh I’ll reply to them later.”  In good faith, you do honestly intend to reply to them later, however, later on you have a less chance of replying to the emails, especially the somewhat unimportant looking emails. 

What happens later is that some of them done get replied, and as you told yourself earlier you would reply to your emails, we didn’t, and we lied to ourselves.  We lied to our self because we tried to do too much than we actually could do, and then of course we failed at it because we set unrealistic goals that couldn’t be accomplished.

Lie to yourself enough, and you’ll become a liar.  I’m sure we’ve all been there, lying to ourselves, telling ourselves were going to do things and then they just don’t get done.  Soon it gets bad and whenever you tell someone your going to do something, it generally never happens.  How many times have we told someone we would do something, and then don’t?  Ouch, to many of those and your in trouble.

Hey, I’m not perfect either, but I do try to remember, to do stuff, and I will say No, I can’t do this because I know it can’t get done, so I won’t lie to myself telling myself I can get it done when honestly I won’t be able to.  So lets be honest.  To ourself.  Be honest to yourself and get the things you said you want to get done, done.  The more we fumble the weaker we get, and the worse we become at getting thing dones.

That’s why I like to say, if you set goals month after month, and they don’t happen.  I bet none of your goals are hit.  Your goals just become words and fun things to think about, but nothing gets done, there is no momentum, there is no accomplish.  It is just one weak goal after another, over and over again.  And then nothing gets done.

I’ve taken a very long time to practice goal settings, what if I told you I could consisntely hit every goal on target, every time over and over?  You know when your good at goals when you say your going to do something, and you make it happen on the day your going to do it.  Then you make another goal and it is done exactly when you said it would be.  Then you gain momentum and nothing can stop you.  Is it possible to hit 100% of your goals, 100% of the time?  I tell you yes it is. 

Stop failing goals.  Start hitting goals, every time.  Can you do it, it’s not hard, and that’s why most people aren’t where they are in life.  Let’s stop lying to ourselves, and lying to other people.  Get consistent at being on-target, every-time.  I have seen so many people doom themselves because they always say their going to do this and that, never do it, and they cycle into a negative momentum of never accomplishing any goals over and over.  There words become weaker at each failed attempt and they ultimately give up because they aren’t doing what they said they would. 

Do what you said you were going to do. A very simple concept, like focus.  But it is extremely hard to do.  Try not to lie to yourself even just today, and you’ll see how difficult it is.  Say your going to do something, and do it. 

And think with me for a second.  If you actually mastered the simple concept of being honest and doing what you said you would do, you would have everything in life you wanted.  If you are like the rest of the 250,000,000 people in America who say their going to do something and then don’t do it, you’ll live an average life style.  One simple concept, one person does it, the rest do not. 

Do what you said you were going to do.  

  • Wow, Wes! This is a very strong article! I said “ouch” a couple of times as I read it.

    What you’ve shared is so true. One of the things I’m working on is not putting too much on my plate each day. I have a tendency to load up my schedule and only get 1/3 completed. I realize that’s a bad habit to get into, so this week my planner is much lighter and I’m feeling much better about getting things done.

    “Do what you said you were going to do.” Simple but so true.

    Tim

    http://www.twitter.com/workplusfaith

  • This reminds me of the introductory chapter(s) to Body for Life… it’s been a while since I read it so I might be way off(if anyone else knows the quote more accurately — please correct me), but roughly paraphrasing it states that we let ourselves down so much sometimes that we stop believing in ourselves. Just committing to something small that you know you will finish will help build your confidence and trust in yourself. Do this a few times and move onto bigger goals/commitments and soon you’ll form habits(important!) of completing everything you set out to do.

  • Great post, lying to yourself is the worst thing possible, like you said in your post you have to learn to say NO and that includes other people and yourself.

  • Hmm… I have never pictured it like that- lying to yourself.

    I believe you are 100% correct in you philosophy that if you practice something, even achieving goals, you will become proficient at it. I’m not too sure why a lot of people don’t achieve their goals. It seems rather harsh to call them all liars. Then again, I guess procrastination really is just lying to yourself about something you said you were going to do.

    Thank you Wes for an insightful post!

  • So true! LOL.

  • Zpivat

    This is trully an awesome post Wes!!!!! Unbelievable….not only are your products awesome, even your blog posts are too! Top notch! Kudos to you =) =) =)

  • Yeah I have a hard time with this. Need to work on it hehe. Why havent u been on msn lately 🙁

  • David

    Nice blog post, Wes. Couldnt agree more

  • Thanks guys, I appreciate all the kind comments!

    @Jon sorry lately its been hard to get anything done with MSN on!

  • Ron

    It’s posts like this that truly lighter a fire under my arse. Many thanks.